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Empowering Children With Low Self Esteem

Nov 4th, 2009 by

Self esteem is a key ingredient in maximizing children’s potential in academic achievement, social success, and personal happiness. This statement alone, was the inspiration behind the motivation for Children’s Story Book ‘ The Magic Sunglasses’ written by Auriel Blanche.(also known as Angela Buck) We all want to protect our children, keep them from harms way and safeguard them from danger.  Fundamentally it is the child’s own inner beliefs and self esteem that is the only thing that can act like armor and create a shield to protect them from the challenges the world has to throw at them.  For a child to reach their full potential: self esteem is the primary and most crucial tool. This is the devise that Angela Buck has focused on throughout her child literacy program.  She prides herself on actively infusing inspiration to children across the world. By sparking imaginations through her literature, Angela gives the children the freedom to learn and the ability to overcome the negatives life may throw at them. Angela encourages the use of attributes a child has within to enable them to live with independence and self worth.   Angela Buck successfully taps into many children’s spirits on a global scale, making them visualize desirable outcomes and make positive connections with their inner purpose. She does this through her skill of creative and innovative writing which engages children of all ages. Along with her interactive workshops and programs, The Magic Sunglasses, her acclaimed children’s fun fantasy book is a must read for all children in todays society. Especially for those who are saddened with a low self esteem. Samantha is a character a child with a lack of confidence can relate to. She too hasn’t fully discovered that she has a special value all her own. Throughout the story she finds a power that the reader will be inspired to find in themselves. The books motivation is to show we all have that special value, which we can use to help us live the lives we really want and to be happy. The magic sunglasses in their physical form mysteriously find their way to Samantha. They have wonderful powers which support her and show her what you can do if you really try! The important notion behind the story is that these possibilities are still achievable when she no longer has them. The results this book entails is seen in the readers improvement of personal motivation, their positivity for their own capabilities, their respect for their own special values and the optimisms for their own self worth. Children with low self-esteem may not want to try new things, and may frequently speak negatively about themselves; they may be over critical, lack confidence and miss out on the fun and learning that other children benefit from. It is known that the use of a child’s imagination helps children to develop their unique personality, beliefs, and strengths. Children work through their problems and explore their feelings while reading this book. Through their new limitless view they are now able to set meaningful and purposeful goals or intentions. Samantha hasn’t any limitations to her dreams; she tries new things and can reach goals without an aid. This can then be relayed in the life of the reader.   Patterns of self-esteem start very early in life. This is why Angela Bucks book is aimed at 7-12 year olds, this age is crucial for  developments; emotionally, physically and intellectually. Learning new skills and gaining belief in their potentials are great ways to improve self esteem in children. This is exactly what the themes throughout The Magic Sunglasses inspires to do. They teach the reader to praise themselves and use their imaginations to motivate all welcomed possibilities. Angela Buck understands that Children with low self esteem need a positive role model. For this reason she created the amazing Samantha. She is always polite and friendly. She is playful and imaginative. She enjoys making her dreams come true and strives to reach her potential. She is a happy child, enthusiastic and charismatic. She is respectful of others and through self discovery learns how to cope with the challenges she faces with optimism and self worth. All of which are attributes that a role model should inspire.   To overcome self esteem issues and lack of confidence we need to Identify and redirect the child’s inaccurate beliefs. Self-esteem is all about the way you judge yourself. Angela strives to promote the ethos of creating a worldwide community of children who have learnt how to value themselves and to use their potential, to live personally successful lives and contribute to the success of others. These aspects are explored through the characters in the book as well as through her interactive workshops, and her new ventures and material. Inaccurate beliefs are created by other inflicting methods surrounding children, i.e. other adults, other children, television, magazines or many other reflective methods. The Magic Sunglasses compromises these inaccurate beliefs and offers a more positive and preferable aspect to life. Samantha the main character doesn’t embellish in perfection, attractiveness or  being the best at everything but instead appreciates her own abilities, enjoys her own imagination and strives to promote her own specialties.  Along with promoting children’s individual self-discovery and self-esteem Angela has the aim of teaching the importance of discovering others self worth’s and becoming respectfully aware of others. To not only understand their own specialties but to seek and understanding the positives and strengths in everyone. Angela hopes a generation of individuals who grow up with a natural respect for others regardless of race, religion or cultural will one day exist. The practice of imagining themselves in Samantha’s situation is very important for developing compassion, empathy and understanding others fully, by discouraging flawed beliefs and offering inspiration for positive healthy ways of thinking, the child’s self-esteem and confidence will inevitably improve. This will benefit the academic, social and personal development needed at this age.    It is known that a child needs affection and love. Without this it is inevitable that a low self esteem will occur. For this reason The Magic Sunglasses would be a great read to improve the esteem. It is a warming and touching storyline that will be extremely heartfelt by the reader, making them feel happy inside. The transparent messages throughout the book are to teach the children to love themselves. This book will surely strengthen the child’s heart. Positive feedback is always craved by children and important in their learning, for this reason the book encourages own thought and personal creativity. It also encourages using imaginations for possibilities and the motivation for achieving those opportunities.  The Magic Sunglasses provides imaginary situations which allow them to practice creative solutions and transcend challenges. Both of which are tools that will set them for life. A happy living environment is essential in areas of personal confidence and personal valuation. If a child has been constantly criticized, bullied or ignored during early childhood they will have much less child self-esteem than children who are praised, encouraged, listened to and valued. Often it is the case that a child hasn’t had or cannot respond to the praise or encouragement from a parent or teacher alone. This means that it is important that every child has the confidence within themselves to appreciate their own self worth and specialties. All of which are creatively demonstrated with fantastic illustrations in Angela Bucks book.  Another aspect to think of is that if a child is experiencing a troubled time they may need an embracive distraction.  By reading The Magic Sunglasses an escapism is created for them. An inspirational and imaginative place of positivity and hedonism.  A  place of fun, friendship and endless possibility. Worry, fear, panic and anxiety are all counteracted with positive images by reading the magic sunglasses, all fantastically created by the amazing author Angela Buck. Children with unhealthy self-esteem tend to fear interacting with others. They’re uncomfortable in social settings and hate group activities as well as independent pursuits. When challenges arise, they feel negative toward finding solutions and belittle themselves. Children with low self esteem are afraid to say “I don’t understand this.” And therefore do not learn and develop as the others do. They don’t know their strengths and focus on their weaknesses. The Magic Sunglasses give a sense of optimism throughout the story line. An interactive workshop is available just by contacting the author. This is where children can benefit from the participational activities and make friends through the interaction. They are encouraged to have fun, be creative and play imaginatively in order to explore the themes. In small groups the children can concentrate on the issues and communicate openly in discussions. This will enable the individuals within the groups to challenge and understand their own and others fear and problems. They will learn to inspire themselves and others to explore passions and dreams. All children in the previous workshops, enjoyed, learnt and benefitted from them. Many parents noticed differences in their children. Many children improved their self-esteem. Teachers were impressed and as a result were inspired to re-book again and again.    . When these stories actually transform a child’s life, bringing joy and happiness to it, you know the story is a winner. This touching, inspirational and heart-warming plot has repeatedly been transformed into optimistic true life stories for many children who have read it. From some of which, Angela has been inundated with positive testimonials, rewarding reviews and written letters of compliments.  ”I was told by a friend of mine to get the magic sunglasses for my daughter who is 7, she loved it and I did too. I try to make her realize how special she is and this book was great in explaining this, the pictures were great and Katie loved to read it. In fact shes read it again and again, I will definitely recommend this to children with lack of confidence and parents who think their children may need help in self esteem. ” Barbara Deaglee “I used to hear my 8-year-old daughter putting herself down, saying things like “I’m so ugly” or “I can’t do anything right.” I tried to assure her that none of these things were true, but nothing I said seemed to make any difference. I gave her The Magic Sunglasses and she loved it. Shes read it a few times now. She is now so much happier, she comes home from school and tells us what shes been good at and she has even joined a dance club. I’d recommend this book to every mum who is worried about their child being down.” Julie Jacobs – Melton Mowbray   ”Dear Angela, Thankyou very much for your workshop at my childs school last month. She came home excitable telling me about her day, playing games and learning about the magic sunglasses. I thought nothing more of it until I went to a parent teacher meeting. I was told my daughter who is 7 had come out of herself. I know she was a little shy, would be afraid to talk out in class and would shy from asking the teacher for help sometimes, but I was told that she is now much chattier and participates in the classroom discussions more. Im amazed she has even auditioned for the school play. This I have been told has resulted in her grades improving. I have also seen a happier child, she is a lot chattier, has had many new friends round for tea and is very keen on keeping up to date with the website……………..” David Harper – Oldham As you can see from these views, Angela Buck is a very inspirational lady, not only to children but to adults and parents over the globe. She shines beacons of light, inspires lasting change and empowers emotionally happy children to reach endless possibilities!!! How refreshing and delightful to benefit from The Magic Sunglasses and see it empower our childrens minds and free their spirits to become flourishing children and ultimately successful adults! To get involved in her quest or to introduce your child to Samantha, Angela or The Magic Sunglasses purely click on the link – http://themagicsunglasses.com.
My names Kaley Herrick and i spend my time researching and exploring the development of children with regards to the benefits of using contemporary children’s literature. I have a BA Honours degree in Performing and Media Arts and have a keen interest in child development and the creative arts.
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A Philadelphia Life Coach Shares a Secret to Help You Improve Personal Confidence and Self Esteem

Nov 2nd, 2009 by

You have within yourself a resource you can draw on to find inner guidance and discover unsuspected personal strength. You can connect with this inner wisdom by relaxing deeply and inviting an image to appear. What you receive will enable you to successfully address the challenges you face, improving self esteem and building personal confidence easily perceived by those around you.
Here is how my life coaching clients have benefited from this method:
- The perspective Paul gained when the Sun told him “I will rise tomorrow without your help” enabled him to delegate more, improving his productivity, the morale of his group, and his personal confidence.
- Overwhelmed with too much to do, Jody learned focus from an Owl who took her flying above a meadow full of rabbits, chipmunks, and mice. “If I stay up here, wondering which animal to choose, I will starve,” explained Owl. “I must select one and strike or I will go hungry.” With that, Owl shot down to the ground, snatched a shrew in his talons and flew off to his nest. Jody remembered the image of Owl whenever she felt confused by the many options available to her. She selected one task and focused her attention on that project alone. She accomplished more with greater ease which boosted her self-esteem.
- Ken developed personal confidence and calm in the face of adversity after a massive Oak showed him how to remain firmly rooted through the fierce winds of a storm.
Here is the simple procedure you, too, can use to successfully achieve your goals, improve confidence and build self esteem:
1. Focus and Formulate a Question
Create a space and time when you know you will be undisturbed. Spend a few moments concentrating on the issue you are facing. Review in your mind the challenges as well as your goals.
Then formulate a question you can pose to your inner knowing. Make sure your question focuses on the solution, not the problem. Questions such as “What is wrong with me?” or “Why can’t I do this?” focus on your problems and limitations. Questions like “What do I need to know to move beyond this impasse?” or “What am I not seeing here that will help me achieve my goal?” elicit solutions and resources you can use to move forward.
Broad questions work better than yes/no questions such as “Should I leave my job?” My favorite question is, “What do I need to know about… (supply the issue you are facing)…for my learning and personal growth at this time?”
2. Relax
A sense of deep relaxation provides the opening through which you can access your inner wisdom. Make sure your body is comfortably supported. Uncross your arms and legs.
Breathe deeply, imagining that you are breathing in calm and peace. As you exhale, imagine yourself releasing any stress or tension. If you notice distracting thoughts, let them go on the next exhalation and return your focus to your breathing. The more deeply you relax, the more easily you will be able to connect with your inner wisdom.
3. Ask and wait patiently
Once your mind is still and you are feeling deeply relaxed, pose your question, or call out and invite an image to be present. Then simply wait receptively for whatever comes to you.
You may immediately receive an answer to your question or an image may come that provides you with exactly the insight you are seeking. Or you may need to wait patiently for something to come.
It is important to allow plenty of time for your inner wisdom to respond. If a response does not come instantly, avoid the temptation of jumping in and coming up with an answer yourself. Allow your inner wisdom all the time it needs.
If nothing comes to you, your “Inner Critic” may be standing between you and your inner knowing. This is the voice in your head that says things like “You’ll never be able to do this!” or “This is stupid!”
If judgmental thoughts such as these intrude let them go and return your focus to your breathing. If these thoughts persist, thank them for being there but affirm your commitment to learning what your inner wisdom has to tell you.
By remaining consistent in this commitment, trusting the process, and allowing time for these skills to develop, you will soon succeed in dependably accessing your inner wisdom. Then you will regularly experience the rewards of Step 4.
4. Receive
Remain alert and open to any awareness that comes to you. Inner wisdom may come to you as a phrase or a simple knowing or it may present itself in the form of an image.
What you receive may feel so apparent that at first you may wonder whether it is coming from your inner knowing or if you’ve simply thought it up. Don’t be concerned about this. What’s important is that you find it useful.
If an image appears, welcome it. Dialog with whatever comes to you. Express any feelings and ask any questions you have, remaining open to the response you receive.
5. Refine
Whatever you receive may provide exactly what you are seeking and nothing more needs to be said or done. If you have questions or even objections to what you have received, simply express them, just as you would to a trusted advisor. Then be open to whatever your inner wisdom offers in response. Continue this dialog until you feel satisfied.
If there are additional aspects of the situation you would like to explore, cycle back through Steps 1-5 until you feel resolved.
In Summary
What you receive from your inner wisdom may seem no different from what friends have told you or what a life coach might say. You will find, however, that because this awareness comes from within yourself it carries a power and sense of personal truth which make the message more impactful and transformative.
Learning which comes from within, rather than through someone else’s advice, empowers you to more effectively create sustainable change in your life.
You will learn that everything you need in order to achieve any goal can be found within yourself. This awareness alone helps improve self esteem. Accessing your inner wisdom will help you succeed, which will build confidence even more. Drawing on skills and expertise developed over 30 years experience, <a href="http://www.achieveyourgoals.com” rel=”nofollow”>Philadelphia life coach Jeannette Samanen PhD provides effective life coaching, empowering you to achieve your goals. You will receive “5 Easy Steps to Access Your Inner Wisdom” , an expanded version of this article, when you subscribe to her “Make Your Good Life Better” newsletter at www.achieveyourgoals.com.Free WP Autoposter Plugins

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Tips To Improve Confidence By Improving Self Esteem

Oct 31st, 2009 by

Not many people take the time to actually think about the real meaning of self esteem even though they may think they know about it. It relates to specific parts of your personality and the way you project those parts creating your identity. It isn’t a alternative phrase for confidence despite what many people think. Attitudes make up the social context of your personality and to leave your mark on the world around you and be yourself require it. The success of an individual often depends greatly on how they and others see them – their public persona. Those with high self esteem are often more motivated to achieve their goals and often go about it with a strong will. Often other individuals will be envious because it results in increased confidence. If you find you are lacking contentment, satisfaction or energy in your life then this often means you are suffering from a low level of self esteem. Individuals often feel that they can’t succeed in life and have difficulty functioning as an independent individual. As a result of this mindset it can sometimes lead to depression and anxiety. Many people in today’s world view mistakes as a shameful event rather than as a learning experience. You can build up your confidence if you regard your mistakes as a learning experience resulting in you becoming a more mature individual. To decide if your life is on the right path, or if you need to change course, is a consequence of analysing your mistakes. Consider your mistakes as a lesson that can teach you more about yourself rather than as an error. To increase your levels you need to give yourself a purpose and to do this you should set goals to reach. Each goal should be something that motivates you and be something you have long wanted to accomplish. Once you reach your goals you will have a sense of accomplishment and this will help increase your self esteem. In line with setting goals you should give yourself rewards when you achieve your goals. This way you can not only have personal satisfaction of achieving a goal, but you will also have something you can enjoy. The fastest way to destroy your self esteem is through negative behavior or language. Always try to speak in positive language and use positive behavior. Show this positive attitude to the World even if you don’t feel it on the inside. In a real sense we are defined by our behaiour not our fears. If you act as though you believe in yourself your it will increase as a consequence. swarovski crystals wholesale

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