You have within yourself a resource you can draw on to find inner guidance and discover unsuspected personal strength. You can connect with this inner wisdom by relaxing deeply and inviting an image to appear. What you receive will enable you to successfully address the challenges you face, improving self esteem and building personal confidence easily perceived by those around you.
Here is how my life coaching clients have benefited from this method:
- The perspective Paul gained when the Sun told him “I will rise tomorrow without your help” enabled him to delegate more, improving his productivity, the morale of his group, and his personal confidence.
- Overwhelmed with too much to do, Jody learned focus from an Owl who took her flying above a meadow full of rabbits, chipmunks, and mice. “If I stay up here, wondering which animal to choose, I will starve,” explained Owl. “I must select one and strike or I will go hungry.” With that, Owl shot down to the ground, snatched a shrew in his talons and flew off to his nest. Jody remembered the image of Owl whenever she felt confused by the many options available to her. She selected one task and focused her attention on that project alone. She accomplished more with greater ease which boosted her self-esteem.
- Ken developed personal confidence and calm in the face of adversity after a massive Oak showed him how to remain firmly rooted through the fierce winds of a storm.
Here is the simple procedure you, too, can use to successfully achieve your goals, improve confidence and build self esteem:
1. Focus and Formulate a Question
Create a space and time when you know you will be undisturbed. Spend a few moments concentrating on the issue you are facing. Review in your mind the challenges as well as your goals.
Then formulate a question you can pose to your inner knowing. Make sure your question focuses on the solution, not the problem. Questions such as “What is wrong with me?” or “Why can’t I do this?” focus on your problems and limitations. Questions like “What do I need to know to move beyond this impasse?” or “What am I not seeing here that will help me achieve my goal?” elicit solutions and resources you can use to move forward.
Broad questions work better than yes/no questions such as “Should I leave my job?” My favorite question is, “What do I need to know about… (supply the issue you are facing)…for my learning and personal growth at this time?”
2. Relax
A sense of deep relaxation provides the opening through which you can access your inner wisdom. Make sure your body is comfortably supported. Uncross your arms and legs.
Breathe deeply, imagining that you are breathing in calm and peace. As you exhale, imagine yourself releasing any stress or tension. If you notice distracting thoughts, let them go on the next exhalation and return your focus to your breathing. The more deeply you relax, the more easily you will be able to connect with your inner wisdom.
3. Ask and wait patiently
Once your mind is still and you are feeling deeply relaxed, pose your question, or call out and invite an image to be present. Then simply wait receptively for whatever comes to you.
You may immediately receive an answer to your question or an image may come that provides you with exactly the insight you are seeking. Or you may need to wait patiently for something to come.
It is important to allow plenty of time for your inner wisdom to respond. If a response does not come instantly, avoid the temptation of jumping in and coming up with an answer yourself. Allow your inner wisdom all the time it needs.
If nothing comes to you, your “Inner Critic” may be standing between you and your inner knowing. This is the voice in your head that says things like “You’ll never be able to do this!” or “This is stupid!”
If judgmental thoughts such as these intrude let them go and return your focus to your breathing. If these thoughts persist, thank them for being there but affirm your commitment to learning what your inner wisdom has to tell you.
By remaining consistent in this commitment, trusting the process, and allowing time for these skills to develop, you will soon succeed in dependably accessing your inner wisdom. Then you will regularly experience the rewards of Step 4.
4. Receive
Remain alert and open to any awareness that comes to you. Inner wisdom may come to you as a phrase or a simple knowing or it may present itself in the form of an image.
What you receive may feel so apparent that at first you may wonder whether it is coming from your inner knowing or if you’ve simply thought it up. Don’t be concerned about this. What’s important is that you find it useful.
If an image appears, welcome it. Dialog with whatever comes to you. Express any feelings and ask any questions you have, remaining open to the response you receive.
5. Refine
Whatever you receive may provide exactly what you are seeking and nothing more needs to be said or done. If you have questions or even objections to what you have received, simply express them, just as you would to a trusted advisor. Then be open to whatever your inner wisdom offers in response. Continue this dialog until you feel satisfied.
If there are additional aspects of the situation you would like to explore, cycle back through Steps 1-5 until you feel resolved.
In Summary
What you receive from your inner wisdom may seem no different from what friends have told you or what a life coach might say. You will find, however, that because this awareness comes from within yourself it carries a power and sense of personal truth which make the message more impactful and transformative.
Learning which comes from within, rather than through someone else’s advice, empowers you to more effectively create sustainable change in your life.
You will learn that everything you need in order to achieve any goal can be found within yourself. This awareness alone helps improve self esteem. Accessing your inner wisdom will help you succeed, which will build confidence even more. Drawing on skills and expertise developed over 30 years experience, <a href="http://www.achieveyourgoals.com” rel=”nofollow”>Philadelphia life coach Jeannette Samanen PhD provides effective life coaching, empowering you to achieve your goals. You will receive “5 Easy Steps to Access Your Inner Wisdom” , an expanded version of this article, when you subscribe to her “Make Your Good Life Better” newsletter at www.achieveyourgoals.com.Free WP Autoposter Plugins

What are the most important determining factors in whether or not you reach your greatest dreams? Some say resources, contending that without things like time and money, it is not possible to make your dreams come true. Others argue that a certain amount of good fortune is essential, or that you have to be in the proverbial right place at the right time. Others might suggest that breeding, family money, a good education and social status represent a great head start.

Stop. Most of those are critical factors, but there is one that is more important than all of the others combined. It is your self-image.

I recently read a quote that stated “if you want to know what a person wants, simply look at what he or she has.” At first glance, this may seem like a harsh assessment that doesn’t take into account many factors beyond the person’s control.

But, upon closer examination, you can see the truth behind the statement and better yet, the promise.

Examine your life today: the relationships, the circumstances, and the economic welfare. Ask yourself the following questions:

• What have I asked of life?

• Have I sought excellence?

• Have I held back?

• Have I allowed the fear of tomorrow to stunt my progress today?

• Do I deserve better? (A sense of personal unworthiness is one of the most pervasive killers of human dreams.)

The way that you see yourself will greatly influence your answers to all of these questions

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Hello and welcome to – How To Improve Your Self-Esteem Fast! I have written about what I feel self esteem is all about and how I improved mine. I am not a doctor nor am I an expert, but I have read a lot of self help books to improve my own self-esteem, and I believe that high self esteem is a huge factor in leading a happy life.

So What Is Self-Esteem?

Your self-esteem is not only how you feel about yourself in the present, it is how you asses yourself fundamentally through out the long term. If you have low self esteem, daily events can have a major influence on how you feel. For example, a kind gesture from a friend or a good day at work can make you feel great for a few days. And alternately a not so nice day can make you feel extremely low. And lets face it most days are uneventful and dull, so when you have low self esteem staying high can be a struggle! A good healthy self-esteem is based on accepting yourself for who you are – know who you are, and be content, like yourself!

Your Self-esteem Has Been…

Built and developed throughout out your entire life to this point in time now! And yes you guessed it, child hood had a huge impact on your self-esteem. All the pleasant, good, bad and ugly stuff that happened while growing up had an influence on how you rate yourself today. Healthy self-esteem will have been built from praise, respect and stable influences while growing up. People who were yelled at, regularly criticized, abused, given no positive attention, bullied etc, will have found it difficult to develop a healthy self-esteem. These are extreme examples, and subtle negative/positive experiences have a big impact also. Things happening that you don’t necessarily remember, or didn’t think much of can have been big influences also.

Argue With Your “Inner Voice” To Help Improve Self-Esteem

We all have an inner voice constantly chatting away inside our heads. It passes comment on everything we did/do/want to do. And for those with healthy self-esteem it reassures and compliments. For us with poor self-esteem the inner voice criticizes, puts us down and stands in our way! When you do something, like for example – compete in sport or go for a job interview, and some one praises you the inner voice will say something like “he was lying, you were terrible, don’t bother next time”. What you must do is contradict the inner voice, and snap back with something like – “He praised me because I did well, I might not have been perfect but win lose or draw I did my best and I’m proud of myself!”

Arguing with your inner voice will go along way towards improving your self-esteem, start now! Remember this, YOU are the boss, YOU are in control, don’t let the critic within bring you down!

Using Positive Affirmations To Improve Self-Esteem

A positive affirmation is a positive statement about yourself. Use them in a meditation technique, as well as through each day by saying them to yourself in your mind. Ideally you want to relax at least once a day and just quietly repeat some positive statements to yourself – playing some relaxing music at the same time is real good help!

Examples of positive affirmations to improve self-esteem:

Who You Are –

I am beautiful

I am strong

I am special

Who you will be -<

I can be a winner

I can be strong

I can heal

I can lose weight

I will do –

I will like myself

I will smile more

I will control my temper

By repeating these things to yourself on a constant basis you have no choice but to believe them deep down! You will become these things, and that's improving self-esteem.

Self-Nurturing To Improve Self-Esteem

Self-nurturing is critical to improving self-esteem. Start by looking after yourself physically, by eating well, staying/getting into shape and having all the sleep you need – not too much and not too little.

Self-nurturing to improve self-esteem is making yourself feel worthwhile. Treat yourself regularly by doing fun and enjoyable things – especially when you've achieved something meaningful. You must reward yourself for accomplishments! Think of the things you like about yourself, and remind yourself constantly about them. Don't dwell or punish yourself for failing – reward yourself for trying in the first place. Remember to concentrate on the good and learn to forgive what you perceive to be the bad. Times when you don't feel good or positive are crucial, you must find things about yourself that are good no matter how small they might be! Improving self-esteem will come by doing these things. Acquiring help from loved ones can be a big help for improving self-esteem. Ask friends and family to tell you what they like about you. Ask them to be your release valve when you feel low or frustrated – by just listening when your letting off steam, this can be a huge help in improving self-esteem.

Your Environment Is Vital To Improving Self-esteem And Maintaining It

Being surrounded by warm, loving people is a huge factor in self-esteem. Now I know this isn't possible for a lot, not everyone has a caring friend and family network. However you must ensure that those you do have in your life accept you, and of course you must accept them for who they are. A feeling of acceptance will help you to realize that differences between people are okay. Relationships with others will be easier to build by understanding this. Bond with those you see and interact with every day, do this by simply talking, touching while talking, showing respect, listening, being supportive, and being honest. Liking those around you and knowing that they feel the same about you is a huge boost to ones self-esteem!

Criticism

Don't be sorry for who you are! If and when you're criticised, for what ever reason be sure to "judge" what is said to you before responding. Don't automatically apologise! If the criticism is fair then take it on board and respond by agreeing with the criticiser. If unfair then stand up to it, like with your inner voice. A well composed and self-possessed person will listen to criticism without interrupting and then respond. Be sure to give criticism at appropriate times, people with poor self-esteem often find it harder to give than to take. Don't let annoyances go until you "boil over", it's usually better to nip things in the bud. Be tactful and try not to hurt another persons' self-esteem. Use the word "I" not "you", example – I have trouble when that happens.

David Stuart

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